Tuesday, October 20, 2015


You were born in a first class hospital, I was delivered at home, we both survived.

You went to a private primary school and I went to a public school, we both ended in the same high school.

You woke up from the bed and I woke from the floor, we both had a peaceful night rest.

Your outfits are all expensive, mine are all simple and cheap, we both still cover our nakedness.

You ate fried rice and roasted chicken, I ate local made food but we both still ate to our satisfaction.

You ride on Lexus jeep, Range Rover, G Wagon, Hummer Jeep and I use public transport but we still got to our various destination.

You may be reading this post from your Sony xperia, BB Z10, Q10, Samsung Galaxy 6edge, IPhone6+ and I typed it with my Touch one broken screen, we still see the message.

Lifestyle is not a competition and there are different ways to get a lot of things done, different lanes all leading to the same destination. Just because your neighbour is doing things faster does not mean you are failing.

Happiness doesn't come from having everything, but making the best out of what you have, it's all about how you see yourself.

Happiness is not having what you like. Happiness is liking what you have and being content.

Happiness is not having what you like.

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Sunday, October 18, 2015


One day, a mountaineer was going up a very high mountain.
He was so proud; he was climbing all by himself.
It was very dangerous to climb up a snowy mountain all alone, but he was so proud, he believed he didn’t need anyone.
By nightfall, common sense dictated that he set up camp. But he kept climbing because he wanted to reach the summit quickly.
But in his exhaustion, his foot slipped.
And he found himself free falling through the air. He closed his eyes and saw flashbacks of his life.
All of a sudden, he felt a jolt—and violent pull around his waist. The rope tied around his belt saved him!
In total darkness, he was now hanging onto his rope.
And he shouted, “God, if you’re up there, save me!”
Suddenly, he heard a voice say, “If you believe that I can save you, do what I tell you to do…”
He answered, “What should I do?”
The voice said, “Cut your rope.”
“Wha…what?” he said.
“Cut the rope and let go,” the voice said.
After a few moments, he shouted again, “Is there anyone else up there?”
The next day, mountain climbers saw his limp body, hanging by the rope, frozen to death. The curious thing about what they saw? He was hanging only 2 feet from the ground.
Let's try not to be so proud even in the point of death. Many people are like that: They trust in their rope more than in their God. They trust in their money, in their abilities, in their connections, in their intelligence more than in their God.
Let's cut the rope and trust in God.

Cut the Rope…

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Friday, October 9, 2015


In principle, having a job is good for your health. It provides a sense of purpose, offers human contact, creates routine and gives you the remuneration that buys access to healthier lifestyles away from junk food and daytime TV.

Of course, not all working environments are beneficial. In many parts of the developing world, sweatshop conditions are still in place, workers are breathing in asbestos, passive smoking is the norm, temperatures are freezing cold or boiling hot, or the buildings themselves are unsafe. So when we talk about work being bad for us, let’s remember this is a first world problem.
However within this relatively privileged realm, work can still be detrimental to your health. Too many people are spending too much time in front of a screen, getting caught up in back-to-back meetings, eating lunch on the hop, if at all, sitting for hours at a desk, worrying about work at night, consuming too much caffeine, and winding down from the whole thing with a few drinks too many.
So here are 10 tips on how to keep healthy at work.
1 Stand up
Sitting in a chair isn’t natural and it causes the internal organs to sag. Core muscles will be worked more by standing. While standing meetings have waned, the latest fashion is for desks you stand at. Standing up burns calories too. If you can’t get round spending most of your day on your derriere, try flexing your ankles, squeezing your buttocks, tightening your stomach muscles, while you’re there. Imagine you’re on a long-haul flight, because that’s essentially what the modern workplace is like.
2 Get some fresh air
 Instead of eating your sandwich at your desk, go outside, even if it’s wet. Fresh air gets the lungs working and the blood flowing. In the time you spend dithering about which task to do next, you could have taken a walk around the block.
3 Take the stairs, not the lift
If you’re not working in a skyscraper, you should use the staircase as an opportunity to burn some calories and exercise your joints. Exercise doesn’t have to take place only in a gym.
4 Look away now
 When working on the computer, make sure you regularly look away from the screen and rest your eyes on the furthest point you can find. Change in focal length is as good as rest. And remember to blink. We blink less when in front of a screen, meaning the eyes dry up and get tired.
5 Turn your devices off in the evening and overnight
When you leave your devices on, they subtly remind you of work you should be doing, thus cutting into your necessary recovery time.
6 Go to sleep
How you sleep is vital to your health at work. More and more studies are reminding us of the value of sleep to our sanity and effectiveness as people – one went as far to suggest the working day should start at 10am. Even a short nap can make a difference, so find a place in the day where you can take 40 winks.
7 Be more French
The French take time to eat lunch, sometimes even over two hours. Eating slowly is good for you. It’s also better to have your main meal at lunch rather than dinner as it gives you more time to digest.
8 Drink water
Lots of offices are air-conditioned or overheated, and the result is dehydration. That ages us, causing our skin to wrinkle more quickly. We need water to lubricate our whole system. Keep a glass of water on your desk to sip at.
9 Cut down on caffeine
Coffee is dehydrating and because of its caffeine content, it can affect how we sleep. If you’re a coffee addict, consider switching to decaf. But do it over time. Going cold turkey can cause headaches.
10 Do tasks for other people

Health isn’t just about the body. It’s about a sense of wellbeing. We tend to feel best when we are altruistic. Whether it’s helping someone across the road during your lunch hour or taking on somebody else’s task at work, you’ll feel better as a result.

Is work making you sick? Here are 10 ways to feel better

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Wednesday, October 7, 2015

If you’re thinking about getting married — pause for a minute and answer these questions.
Humble yourself.. Of course you’re in love. You know you’re ready to vow “through sickness and health … until death do us part” – however, take a deep breath, And consider these questions.

1. Can they handle conflict? 
Conflict is certain in marriage, but that’s not all negative. Learning to resolve conflict can have many positive benefits, provided you learn how to handle conflict in a healthy way. Healthy conflict gives birth to intimacy and understanding. Unhealthy conflict creates bitterness and resentment. “Two major red flags of unhealthy conflict management are stonewalling (the silent treatment) and any form of violence. If someone is a little too angry as a boyfriend/girlfriend, they will be much too angry as a spouse,” “Marriage typically increases conflict and the potential for anger.”

2. Does he/she share your faith? 
The deeper you hold your faith, the more difficult it is to compromise on this, particularly if you decide to have children. So many couples have come back to me after they have children and ask, “What do we do now?” when trying to decide where to worship and even how to acknowledge the birth (Baptism? Dedication?) There’s no easy answer here. A common faith holds a family together, not just on a weekly basis, but on major holidays throughout the year—which means that every such occasion will remind you of your disconnect as a couple if you share a significantly different expression of faith that makes you want to be in two different houses of worship at any one time.

3. Will they kiss divorce good-bye?
 Every marriage eventually proves to be difficult at times. Human nature is such that if there’s an easy “off-ramp,” we tend to want to take it. Marry someone who is committed to working through every challenge you face without considering divorce as an option.

4. Will they be a spectacular parent? 
You’re not just choosing your future husband or wife; you’re choosing your kids’ future dad or mom. It’s impossible for you to imagine how much you’ll love your children; they will pull emotions out of you that you didn’t even know you had. And on the day you bring them home, you’ll be so glad you picked someone who will be a fantastic parent, or you’ll grieve that they have to put up with someone who is neglectful or, even worse, abusive. “If you plan on having kids, your marriage isn’t just about you, “Your future spouse’s suitability as a parent is a major deal to consider.”

5. Do they pray? 
The older we get, the more it seems we need to pray. Our circle of influence widens. People ask us to pray for them. The task of being married requires daily prayer—we pray about how to love each other, for the strength to serve unselfishly, and for wisdom for many decisions. Few couples married for several years have s*3x every day—but every thoughtful Christian will pray every day, so put “prayer aptitude” at least as high as s*xual chemistry in your list of what matters in a potential spouse. Being married to an active pray-er is a true blessing. By the way, a quick test to know how often someone prays is simply listening to what they talk about. Do they ever share what God is challenging them with? If they’re not regularly talking about God, they’re not regularly talking to God. If he/she never shares anything about their devotional times, that’s a good sign that they don’t really have significant devotional times.

6. Do they know how to forgive?
 James 3:2 says, “We all stumble in many ways.” That includes you. The Bible testifies that, in marriage (and out), you will stumble in many ways. If you marry someone who doesn’t know how to forgive, your marriage will soon be weighted down with heavy resentment and bitterness.

7. Do they know how to communicate? 
Communication is essential to build new intimacy when infatuation fades (which it will). If you marry someone who is fearful of communication or unskilled at communication, your marriage will fall into an intimacy rut. Joshua Harris writes, “You can’t love what you don’t know. You can’t be truly loved if you’re not truly known. And the only way to know and be known by another person is to communicate—openly, honestly, sincerely, humbly.” Women, however much your boyfriend talks to you, imagine marriage will have 25% less talk. (I’m not suggesting it should be that way, just that it often is.) Will that be enough? If he’s already borderline in this area, you’re likely to become very frustrated after marriage.

8. Is he/she humble? 
The only thing worse than being married to someone who isn’t perfect, is being married to someone who isn’t perfect but who thinks they are. People without humility can never grow; they spend all their energy defending themselves rather than evaluating themselves and making appropriate corrections. Ask yourself, does this person ever serve others, or do they insist on being served? Do they show empathy toward the feelings of others or are they always trying to impress? Do they show initiative in caring for others, or are they obsessed with how they are treated or appreciated?

9. Are they a giver or a taker? 
The sad reality is, some people are givers and some people are takers. Givers don’t always mind being in a relationship with a taker because they like to give; it brings them joy. But marriage is a long journey and there will eventually be seasons when the giver needs to receive. In those instances, can your taker learn to give? In most cases, sadly, the answer is no. When a taker has to give, he feels sorry for himself even more than he feels empathy for you. “Ask yourself, when you spend time with your partner, do you feel drained or invigorated?” “Would you describe the relationship as healing and supportive, or exhausting and combative?”

Questions You Should Ask Before Saying ‘I do’

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Tuesday, October 6, 2015



You’ve been together now for a while. Long enough to know how your significant other takes his or her coffee, what kind of deodorant they use and what they wear to bed (if anything). Despite the amazing chemistry between you and the regular declarations of love made, you are not quite sure of your future together. Is this person willing to take the next step? Are you willing to wait? Here are some signs that your relationship is not going to progress to the place you want it to go:


1. When you bring up the future of your relationship, you get into an argument.

Your significant other gets defensive and comes up with lots of excuses about why you’re A) not exclusive B) not moving in together C) not getting engaged or D) engaged, but not ready to plan a wedding. Your ego is bruised after these conversations. You can’t get a clear answer and are usually referred to words like “it’ll happen soon,” or “I just need more time,” or “can we talk about this later?” All excuses point to NOWHERE.

2. The family pulls the puppet strings.

If your significant other has not cut the cord with his/her family, you may be in trouble, particularly if the family is completely overbearing and opinionated. The worst-case scenario is if the family doesn’t like you. That sort of animosity does not easily disappear. You could be clinging to a bleak future if you marry into a meddling mother-in-law, demanding father-in-law, or even a controlling sibling. If the family doesn’t want them to marry you, there’s a very good chance it’s not going to happen unless you’re willing to navigate a hostile environment on a regular basis.

3. You’ve lost that loving feeling.


Bickering and pushing each other’s buttons has become the norm in your relationship. You used to feel sparks and butterflies but you can’t remember the last time you were excited to see your significant other. You find yourself grateful when your significant other has made other plans without you. You tell yourself that you just need some time on your own to unwind. But the fact that you can’t unwind WITH your significant other is a problem. Every conversation sets your significant other off. They used to be patient, soft spoken and interested in everything you had to say. Now you find yourself carefully thinking about each word that leaves your mouth in case it will set them off. You’re also finding that the relationship is a lot more work than it used to be. The flame has fizzled and it’s not coming back any time soon.

4. Celebrations bring up conflicted feelings.

Engagement parties, weddings, and babies make your significant other uncomfortable. When a new invitation or announcement arrives, you are guaranteed to receive a rolling of the eyes or a, “Why would anyone in his or her right mind get married?” It’s also a struggle to get your significant other to be your date to any sort of life celebratory events. It’s important to find out if you’re battling someone who just hates getting dressed up for occasions like these or if they put pressure on him or her to have their own life celebrations.


5. They’re not a great listener.

You’re extremely supportive of your boyfriend or girlfriend’s professional endeavors but when YOU are having an issue at work, it’s minimized. Any attempts by you to vent or seek guidance or even a good ear are rebutted. You’re then told to “suck it up” or “just quit” without any attempt to assist you in coming up with possible solutions for coping with your current issue. You feel hurt and alone more often than you ever thought possible for being in a relationship.

6. The future is bleak.

He or she speaks about long-term plans that do not involve you. Perhaps it’s a different city that they plan to live in, a job in a different time zone, or even traveling abroad. You start wondering whether you missed a conversation or weren’t paying attention when these plans were originally suggested. When you try to include yourself in the plans, you’re not exactly given a warm welcome. You question his or intentions of the future and are responded to with a shoulder shrug or a mumbled answer. You start searching and questioning for any indication that your relationship outlook is not as fleeting as you feel it is. Can he or she really be so unconcerned whether you join them or not?

7. Ultimatums go nowhere.

You opt for the dramatics of declaring that perhaps you should end things now if this person is not ready to commit or move forward. You throw something. Or cry. Or cry and then throw something. You storm out of the room. Out of your home. Out of a restaurant. Out of a car. You are not followed. 48 hours have passed and nobody has shown up with flowers, candy, love letters, and boatloads of apologies.

8. There’s a questionable exclusivity factor.

You start sending flowers and love letters to yourself in the hopes that your significant other may see and become jealous. You hope he or she may have a sudden epiphany that somebody else has deemed you marriage material and that they have been mistaken in waiting another second before declaring you the love of their lives and becoming exclusive, moving in with, proposing or marrying you IMMEDIATELY. When your significant other is finally presented with hints of another suitor’s presence, he or she shows signs of relief and says something like, “Okay, good. I didn’t know you wanted to see other people, too. I’m glad we’re on the same page.”

9. Red flags are waving.

Your significant other has a tendency to gamble. A LOT. Or drink. A LOT. Or to befriend suspect, sexually attractive strangers. At ALL. Red flag behaviors that bother you a tiny bit become gargantuan once you’ve made a decision to commit to them. The more attached you become to a person, the more attached you become to his or her problems.

10. Deal-breaker or compromise?

You’ve had a couple of discussions about the future and learned that you are not on the same page in terms of wanting to have children, how to raise those future children, religious practices of your household, or how to deal with finances. If one of you is a big spender and the other is as cheap as cheap comes, you’ve got an uphill battle in terms of budgeting money for the things you’ll need. Some issues can be compromised on but the bigger ones (children vs. no children, religion, debt) are usually deal-breakers. TC mark

10 Signs Your Relationship Is Going Nowhere Fast. Stacey Becker

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Friday, October 2, 2015


In the world there is this idea that self-control is about repressing something. For instance, if someone wants to drink wine, we usually tell that person: “You need to have self-control not to drink.”

Self- control is usually about going over the “temptations” in life, for the sake of feeling beyond our “normal” wants and desires.

The word “temptation” is truly a misleading word. All of the sudden, to drink wine becomes a “temptation,” something “negative,” something which we must resist… :-)

In fact, the problem is not wine, but it is our own "whining" :-) our mind-set and lack of “self-control” to behave in a non-damaging way.

The world of duality is the one that we live in. There is every object, every situation, every thing which could be easily put in convenient opposite labels. The most common: “good and bad.”

Please see how our mind is set up to believe in things as merely representing one side of the spectrum: They are either in the light or in darkness. Our beliefs then, can make a religious ideal, a dogma or way of living based on a static idea of something, which is continually changing in time.

Wine is neither bad nor good. It could be useful in some occasions and not useful in others. It all depends in our circumstances, our state of consciousness and our own openness to see things beyond a defining label.

If someone is an addict of drinking wine, obviously the issue is not “wine” itself but the issue is with a personality, but to extend that personality to all people, that is; to assume and place everyone under the same label... is a very costly but comfortable assumption.

When we observe the movement of life and duality, we could see that there will be things bringing pleasure and pain. Many times we reject one side and try to get a hold of the other, not realizing that things will change by itself. The day changes into a night without our help, without our judgment, without considering our beliefs.

Nevertheless, enjoyment of the Moon happens at night. Enjoyment of the Sun, is in the day. To be in the day longing for the Moon to appear … That is the issue of many!

To call the day “bad” because there is no Moon there, is to reject what is there and to live without fullness.

Self control then is that art to move according to time and circumstances, to flow with life without having a mental label or script to determine how our life should be lived.

Self control is about knowing the right time for everything since nothing remains the same. When we act with self control there is neither rejection nor indulgence. There is enjoyment at every step for living is not a thought, it is not a static idea of how things should be, but rather is a flow, a dance where the steps in dancing are not the same for all tunes.

In this way our mental structures will collapse, they will not be able to construct a being which is constrained by ideas and beliefs; but rather a human being in tune with the totality, with the wisdom of knowing the timings in life…

There is time to live, there is a time to die. A time to smile, and a time to cry...There is a time to enjoy and another... to keep enjoying...the movements, the seasons of life. :-)

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Self Control

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Someone had to remind me,
So I'm reminding you, too. Don't laugh.... It is all true!

Perks of reaching 50 Or being over 60 And heading towards 70 or beyond!
1.. Kidnappers are not very interested in you.
2. In a hostage situation,
you are likely to be released first.

3.. No one expects you to run --
anywhere.
4. People call at 9 PM (or 9 AM) and ask, 'Did I wake you?'5.. People no longer view you as a hypochondriac.
6. There is nothing left to learn the hard way.7.. Things you buy now will
never wear out.
8. You can eat supper at 4 PM.9..

You can live without sex but not your glasses.
10.. You get into heated arguments about pension plans.
11. You no longer think of speed limits as a challenge.
12.. You quit trying to hold
your stomach in no matter who walks into the room.
13. You sing along with elevator music.
14.. Your eyes won't get much worse..
15. Your investment in health insurance is finally beginning to pay off.
16.. Your joints are more accurate meteorologists than the national weather service.
17. Your secrets are safe with your friends because they can't remember them either.
18.. Your supply of brain cells is finally down to a manageable size.
19. You can't remember who sent you this list.And you notice these are all in big print for your convenience.
Forward this to everyone You can remember Right now!
AND THE MOST IMPORTANT THING:


Never, NEVER, NEVER , Under any circumstances, Take a sleeping pill, and a laxative on The same night!

At the root of every gray hair, there is a dead brain cell.

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You might have heard the story about the two wolves. If not, here is the refresher.
The old man told his son that a battle between two wolves inside each one of us goes on all the times. First wolf is the Evil character wolf; it produces germs of anger, envy, sorrow, greed, arrogance, stress, lies and tension in our minds. Whereas, the second one is Good character wolf; it generates the energy for hope, peace, happiness, truth, generosity and ethics in our mind, heart and soul. The son asked, so who wins the battle? The old man replied, the one which you feed more!

The story has a superb driving force motivating us to do our self audit. The question is that which wolf we feed daily and how much? If we surround ourselves in negative character people, do back biting, leg pulling, learning tricks to deceive people and talk pessimist events or ideas then definitely we are strengthening the Evil Wolf. On the contrary, if we spend our times with nice and positive people, read good books, focus on solutions, and assist people in resolving their problems then we are encouraging the Good Wolf to overcome the Evil one. In the long run, the Wolf represents our character because eventually our character gets molded either in to a Good Wolf or Evil Wolf.

The story of two wolves

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Cartoonist Gunduz Agayev has no intention to stop. The cartoonist who has created several series of illustrations so far, has chosen again the theme of universal human rights and justice portraying Femida (Themis) in different countries. “I have spent 15-16 days for this volume. I drew thinking and reading about the situations in these countries. These illustrations depict the real conditions in the countries.”
Russia
Germany 
Iran
Greece
China
North Korea
Syria
USA
UK
Turkey
Brazil
France
Azerbaijan

Satirical Illustrations Reveal How World Leaders See Justice

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